Even the strongest relationships go through seasons of disconnection. You might feel like you're having the same argument on repeat, struggling to communicate without shutting down or lashing out—or feeling more like roommates than partners.

Whether you're dealing with a betrayal, breakdown in communication, or just feel emotionally distant, couples therapy can help you find your way back to each other.

I’m Zoe Spears, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist offering online couples therapy across California. I work with couples who want to feel seen, heard, and reconnected—even when it’s hard.

Signs It Might Be Time for Couples Therapy

Couples often reach out when they feel stuck in:

• Recurring conflicts that never feel resolved

• Emotional distance or lack of intimacy

• Communication breakdowns and misunderstandings

• Trust issues or betrayal (including infidelity)

• A sense of “we’ve grown apart”

• Life transitions—parenting, career changes, or moving

• Fear of conflict that leads to silence and avoidance

You don’t have to wait until things feel like they’re falling apart. Therapy can be a proactive space to grow together, not just repair what’s broken.

My Approach: Gottman-Informed and Attachment-Focused

As a therapist trained in the Gottman Method of Couples Therapy, I use evidence-based tools to help couples:

• Communicate without blame or defensiveness

• Manage conflict in healthy, productive ways

• Rebuild trust after hurt

• Deepen emotional intimacy and understanding

• Strengthen the friendship at the core of your relationship

• Explore shared dreams and long-term meaning

I also bring in attachment-based insights to help you understand how early relationship patterns may be influencing how you show up with each other now. Together, we’ll identify the stuck places—and create a path toward connection and clarity.

What to Expect in Couples Therapy

We’ll begin with a collaborative assessment of your relationship—what’s working, what’s not, and what each of you hopes for.

From there, sessions may include:

• Emotionally safe dialogue practice

• Communication and repair strategies

• Tools to manage conflict and prevent escalation

• Exercises from the Gottman Sound Relationship House

• Support for healing trust after infidelity or betrayal

• Guidance in reconnecting emotionally and physically

You don’t have to figure it out alone. I hold space for both of you—with neutrality, compassion, and curiosity.

Your Relationship Deserves Attention—Not Just Survival

Relationships don’t heal through silence or avoidance. They heal through turning toward each other, even when it’s uncomfortable.

If you're ready to explore what’s possible for your relationship, I’d love to support you.

👉 Schedule a free 15-minute consultation or contact me here.