Strengthen Your Relationship with Gottman-Informed Couples Therapy
Even the strongest relationships go through seasons of disconnection. You might feel like you're having the same argument on repeat, struggling to communicate without shutting down or lashing out—or feeling more like roommates than partners.
Whether you're dealing with a betrayal, breakdown in communication, or just feel emotionally distant, couples therapy can help you find your way back to each other.
I’m Zoe Spears, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist offering online couples therapy across California. I work with couples who want to feel seen, heard, and reconnected—even when it’s hard.
Signs It Might Be Time for Couples Therapy
Couples often reach out when they feel stuck in:
Recurring conflicts that never feel resolved
Emotional distance or lack of intimacy
Communication breakdowns and misunderstandings
A sense of “we’ve grown apart”
Life transitions—parenting, career changes, or moving
Fear of conflict that leads to silence and avoidance
You don’t have to wait until things feel like they’re falling apart. Therapy can be a proactive space to grow together, not just repair what’s broken.
My Approach: Gottman-Informed and Attachment-Focused
As a therapist trained in the Gottman Method of Couples Therapy, I use evidence-based tools to help couples:
Communicate without blame or defensiveness
Manage conflict in healthy, productive ways
Rebuild trust after hurt
Deepen emotional intimacy and understanding
Strengthen the friendship at the core of your relationship
Explore shared dreams and long-term meaning
I also bring in attachment-based insights to help you understand how early relationship patterns may be influencing how you show up with each other now. Together, we’ll identify the stuck places—and create a path toward connection and clarity.
What to Expect in Couples Therapy
We’ll begin with a collaborative assessment of your relationship—what’s working, what’s not, and what each of you hopes for.
From there, sessions may include:
Emotionally safe dialogue practice
Communication and repair strategies
Tools to manage conflict and prevent escalation
Exercises from the Gottman Sound Relationship House
Support for healing trust after infidelity or betrayal
Guidance in reconnecting emotionally and physically
You don’t have to figure it out alone. I hold space for both of you—with neutrality, compassion, and curiosity.
Your Relationship Deserves Attention—Not Just Survival
Relationships don’t heal through silence or avoidance. They heal through turning toward each other, even when it’s uncomfortable.
If you're ready to explore what’s possible for your relationship, I’d love to support you.
FAQ’S
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The Gottman method has been proven to be an effective approach when working with couples backed by years of research on what makes relationships last. Through this approach you will be learning concrete applicable tools that you can start implementing immediately for lasting changes in your relationship.
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Oftentimes couples are unconsciously interacting/reacting to one another through their attachment style, which can escalate and intensify relationship issues despite healthy communication tools. By understanding your attachment style you can better grasp your triggers & core needs to effectively communicate and deepen your relationship rather than create further divide.
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Many couples start therapy at a breaking point in the relationship and may not be sure if they even want to continue. Part of the process of couples therapy is to explore what is keeping you in the relationship and what is causing you to consider separation if things don’t change so that we can address these together and you can get greater clarity on your goals of therapy.
