Why We Repeat Childhood Wounds in Love — And How to Break Free
Many people unknowingly repeat childhood attachment wounds in their adult relationships, mistaking instability for passion or rejecting stability because it feels unfamiliar. This post explores how attachment styles shape partner choice, signs you may be caught in old patterns, and steps to heal for more secure, lasting love.
Why Couples Fall Out of Love — And What You Can Do About It
Many couples wonder how something that once felt so connected can begin to feel distant or disconnected. In this post, therapist Zoe Spears, LMFT, explores why couples fall out of love, how to recognize early signs of emotional disconnection, and what you can do to rebuild trust, intimacy, and lasting connection.
What Not to Say to Someone with Anxiety—And What to Say Instead from a Compassionate, Therapist-Informed Lens
When someone you care about is struggling with anxiety, well-meaning comments can unintentionally do harm. Learn what not to say—and what actually helps—from a compassion-focused therapy perspective.
Loving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder: How to Support Without Losing Yourself
Loving someone with BPD can be intense and confusing—but it doesn’t have to mean losing yourself. Learn how to support with empathy, clarity, and boundaries.
Understanding Relationship OCD: How Attachment-Based Therapy Can Help You Heal
Relationship OCD (ROCD) causes people to spiral into obsessive doubts about their partner or relationship—often leaving them confused, anxious, and disconnected. While these patterns can feel overwhelming, they’re often rooted in deeper emotional wounds related to attachment. In this post, we explore how Attachment-Based Therapy helps uncover the roots of ROCD and supports long-term healing by building safety, trust, and emotional clarity from the inside out.
Understanding Attachment Styles: How Therapy Helps You Heal and Connect More Deeply
Your attachment style shapes the way you relate to others—but it doesn't have to define you forever. Learn how therapy helps you heal emotional wounds, shift patterns, and build more secure relationships with self and others.
Getting to Know Your Inner World: How Internal Family Systems (IFS) Can Help You Heal
Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy helps you understand and heal the inner parts of yourself that carry anxiety, shame, self-doubt, and emotional pain. Learn how this compassionate, evidence-based approach can help you reconnect with your true Self and feel more grounded in your life and relationships.
Healing from the Inside Out: How Attachment-Based Therapy Strengthens Your Relationship with Yourself and Others
Attachment-based therapy helps people understand how early relationships shaped the way they connect with themselves and others. By exploring these patterns in a safe, supportive environment, clients can begin to heal emotional wounds, build self-trust, and create more secure, fulfilling relationships. Whether you're struggling with anxiety, self-doubt, or feeling disconnected in love, this approach offers a compassionate path toward lasting change—from the inside out.
What Is the Gottman Method? A Therapist’s Guide to Strengthening Relationships
Curious about how couples can rebuild connection and trust? The Gottman Method is a research-based approach to couples therapy that helps partners improve communication, manage conflict, and deepen emotional intimacy. Learn how this structured, science-backed model supports real, lasting change in relationships—and why it might be right for you.
How to Rebuild trust After Infidelity
In this expert interview, Zoe Spears, LMFT, shares 5 key steps couples can take to rebuild trust after infidelity. Drawing from years of experience in couples therapy, she explores how emotional safety, transparency, and shared meaning can support real repair.
why DO i feel the need for constant reassurance from my partner?
Understanding how your attachment needs influence reassurance seeking behavior