Do you feel anxious when your partner pulls away? Do you fear abandonment or struggle to trust?

Sometimes the roots of anxiety, disconnection, or perfectionism go deeper than what’s happening in the present. Attachment-Based Therapy helps you explore how early experiences with caregivers shaped the way you relate to yourself and others today.

I’m Zoe Spears, a licensed therapist in California offering virtual therapy for adults and young adults who want to heal relational wounds and build secure, connected lives. Through an attachment-focused, psychodynamic approach, I help you understand your emotional world, create healthier boundaries, and break out of patterns that keep you stuck.

What Is Attachment-Based Therapy?

Attachment-Based Therapy is grounded in the idea that our earliest relationships impact how we regulate emotions, connect with others, and experience safety or vulnerability. This approach is especially helpful for those who:

• Struggle with anxiety or emotional overwhelm

• Feel distant or overly dependent in relationships

• Experience fear of abandonment or conflict avoidance

• Deal with self-criticism, people-pleasing, or perfectionism

• Are working through childhood trauma or emotional neglect

• Experience obsessive doubt or distress about their romantic relationships (also known as Relationship OCD)

This is a space to explore your emotional history with compassion—not judgment—and make room for new ways of relating.

How I Work: Psychodynamic, Compassionate, Insight-Oriented

My work is rooted in attachment theory, psychodynamic exploration, and a warm, attuned therapeutic relationship. I believe change happens when we feel safe enough to reflect deeply, be curious about our inner world, and experience something new in the present moment.

In therapy, we might:

• Explore how your childhood shaped your emotional responses

• Identify triggers in current relationships

• Understand anxious, avoidant, or disorganized attachment patterns

• Work through obsessive relationship doubts (ROCD) with compassion and clarity

• Strengthen your sense of self and emotional regulation

• Develop more secure, satisfying connections with others

Each session is tailored to your pace. Some clients need space to reflect quietly; others process through story, emotion, or relational insight. I meet you where you are.

Who This Therapy Is For

Attachment-Based Therapy can benefit:

• Adults seeking to understand long-standing relational issues

• High-achieving professionals with hidden anxiety or perfectionism

• People recovering from emotionally unavailable or chaotic caregiving

• College students or young adults forming their own identity in relationships

• Individuals navigating obsessive doubts or fears about their romantic partners (Relationship OCD)

• Anyone ready to stop repeating old patterns and move toward growth

Begin Building a Secure Foundation

When we understand where our patterns come from, we can begin to loosen their grip. Attachment-based therapy offers a path toward clarity, compassion, and emotional resilience.

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